(And yes, I'm aware that there are toxic folks in the critter community. Hopefully I can steer clear of the toxic parts.)

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I'm super stoked to watch the new dungeons and dragons campaign 3 live.

I'm in the middle of campaign 2. I love the fan art and watching the cast talk about their characters.

I'm so excited to watch campaign 3 in real time. To see (and maybe draw??) fan art without accidentally being spoiled. To maybe actually submit a question to Talks Machina for the cast to answer.

TLDR; I have a huge fan crush on the Critical Role cast and I can't wait to watch their new campaign live in the fall.

Crit role spoilers Campaign 2 Episode 85 

I have so many feels about The Gentleman's conversation with Jester!!!

Matt Mecer is such a good actor. The Gentleman is not a good person, but Matt brought such complexity and regret to the conversation. And Laura as Jester was so genuine and open and hurt and hopeful at the same time. My heart is so full!!

I've always been utilitarian about clothing. If it's practical, I'll do it even if it's not fashionable.

Case in point: I often wear my apron at the dinner table. When I don't want to stain my shirt, why buy a bib when I have a perfectly good apron?

Weekend project: Building custom D&D covers to hide the monsters on the manuals. I love role play, exploration, and wonder, and I want my handbooks to reflect that.

New coping card: "It is okay to just exist"

I am a very perfectionist, goal-driven person. Often I'm more of a human doing than a human being. I push from one goal to the next without stopping for rest or to acknowledge my accomplishments.

My worth is not defined by my productivity.

I am worthy of self-care. I am worthy of love. I am worthy of joy, fun, pleasure, acknowledgement. I am worthy of breaks and rest, regardless of what I have "accomplished".

Manatee sticker by cactus club: cactusclubpaper.com/products/m

Productivity sticker by France corbel: redbubble.com/i/sticker/Your-w

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New coping card addition: validating my feelings!

As a kid, talking about my feelings was met with a change in topic or problem solving. No one ever sat with me and said, "That sounds hard. Tell me more."

As an adult, I often push through my feelings or try to ignore them. Essentially gaslighting myself! So it's important for me to validate that my feelings are *real*, my experience is *hard*, and that's valid.

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I've been working on a set of "coping cards". It's a small wallet-sized zine I can carry with me. I can look at it when I'm triggered or having anxiety, and use grounding techniques to unhijack my brain.

The idea for coping cards comes from the book "Unfuck your brain" by Faith G. Harper. It's really good. Much more practical and written for a patient than "The Body Keeps The Score."

Watermelon Steven sticker can be found here: etsy.com/listing/550037075/wat

More Queer Eye on November 1 and more She-ra on November 5? Yes, it's gonna be Gay-vember!

I've been thinking about this today. Someone posted about being ace and said they "find people attractive aesthetically" but not sexually.

And that really resonated with me. Like show me someone naked and I'm like "eh, it's a body??" But show me a fully clothed picture of someone with a book in their hands or someone who is flagging as queer through hair dye or rainbow gear or whatever, and I'm like 🤩

That feeling isn't sexual attracting per se, but a feeling of "ohh, yeah, maybe I can connect with this person emotionally or romantically".

I've been sure I'm demi-sexual for a while, but I'm leaning more towards describing myself as gray ace or ace now.

My housemate is playing Backstreet Boys??

CW: Food (vegetarian) 

I made pumpkin dumplings and they were so good. I got the recipe from "Giant Spider and Me", a manga about a girl living in a post apocalyptic world. She finds a giant spider and they become friends through food. Each chapter has a new recipe in it. It's cute.

I've got an account there now, thanks everyone! @sphakos

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Is anyone on the mastodon.art instance? I've been wanting to get back into sketching,and being on an art instance would be really inspiring. Let me know if you can send me an invite!

I noticed that the author's first name had changed for the second book. Turns out he transitioned while writing the series! Proud to support other trans artists. :heart_trans:

Letters for Lucardo is an adult comic about a vampire lord who loves an older man. Sexy and sweet and omg I can't wait for the third book!

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partial list of trans holidays:

• Transgender Day of Remembrance
• Transgender Day of Visibility
• Transgender Day of Paperwork
• Transgender Day of Explaining This Shit To Your Parents, Again
• Transgender Day of Dealing With Medical Insurance (formerly part of TDoP but it got too big)
• Transgender Day of Seeing Another Trans Person at the Coffee Shop But They Don't Have Any Openly Trans Signifiers and What Are You Gonna Say To Them Anyway, Hi, I'm Trans Too, How's It Going
• Halloween
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Elke Mackenzie (1911-1990) was a botanist who spent several years in Antarctica studying lichens. While there, she discovered several new species. The most interesting one was probably Verrucaria serpuloides, the only known marine lichen.

In 1971, aged 60, she came out as trans. She spent the end of her career translating botanical texts, before retiring to an A-frame house in Costa Rica which she built herself.

#TDoV

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PSA, please boost! If you take testosterone as a shot, one thing you need to watch out for is the vial "crystalizing". I was warned about this, but had no idea what it looked like until my vial was quite advanced. I've attached photos so others know what the crystals look like. The crystals will dissolve if you gently warm it up by putting it in your pocket for 5-10 minutes. If they don't, it's time to get a new vial.

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