So, i have this really shiny wireless keyboard that @woozle got for my birthday? Xmas? i forget.. which i really love (the keys glow green :D) but it doesn't have a power switch so i inevitably accidentally press keys (and sometimes wreck havoc) when i'm either plugging it in or unplugging it. (separate gripe: i loathe microUSB soooo muuuch :P)

So i wish there were some way to ... dunno, rig one in but i'd be terrified of breaking the keyboard.
</end rant>


...and you haven't even had breakfast yet :/

PS doin' that now

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Me: O Deep MATE, great computer -- can you copy these 50 GB or so of files from one drive to another?
Me: [small sigh of relief]
Me: How long will it take?
Me: Seven and a half million years? Just to copy a few gigabytes???
Me: [eyes rsync]
Deep MATE: Oh wait, here, I can start copying now. IT WILL TAKE... FIFTY AND A HALF MINUTES!!!
Me: [quietly vows to go straight to Caja's source code with a very large axe compiler and give it a reprogramming it'll never forget... when I can get around to it... probably in about seven and a half million years]

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my #TDOV post on Nextdoor 

Today is international Trans Day of Visibility. I'm trans, so I thought I should be visible! Ask me anything (or "", as the kids say on Reddit). If I have enough to say in response, maybe we'll do a video!

Here's some background: I discovered I was trans in 2000, but didn't have the funds to begin transition until 2016. I met my cis-female / nonbinary partner Sandy* (on the left in the photo) in 2001, and we have lived together since ~2003 raising her kids from her last marriage.

Did You Know:

  1. Some people claim "cis" is a slur? It's not; it's just a scientific term that means "not trans".
  2. The "epidemic" of transitioning, especially among trans men, is largely due to the de-stigmatizing of transness in the last decade or so. This is a good thing.
  3. Gender is a social construct, and biological sex is a multidimensional continuum. Grade-school biology is accurate as far as it goes, but leaves out a lot of edge-cases; trans people are among those edge-cases.

Hopefully that's enough to get some friendly conversation started. ^.^

* better known here as @Harena

So far, all of the responses have been positive (names omitted for privacy):


I saw President Biden's statement this morning. So glad this administration supports all Americans. Thanks for your offer of sharing info!

I'm not actually sure what statement she's talking about, but ok!


While I can’t pretend to understand all of this, I celebrate your freedom to be who you are and hope for you a life free of judgement.


Thank you for sharing your lives & happiness. Understanding concepts of gender & sex from your perspective is so helpful, Woozle. At least we all can understand the words. "We don't have to agree on everything to be kind to each other." 💞

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For "binary" people, i.e. males & females with a "traditional" perspective, the meaning of words, especially "sex", "gender", and other kinship relations, also have important and valid but different physical, social, cultural and moral meaning(s). I hope we can all negotiate the distinctions in our views, and contextual uses of words and meanings over time, without acrimony. Peace be with you! 🙂🙃😍


Thanks for this post! As a parent of a child who has come out as Trans within the past year there’s a lot that I’m learning and I appreciate the awareness you are bringing to this topic.

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I think I should add a Patreon tier which says "I will sing any TMBG song you request in a Kermit the Frog voice."

...or will that just scare people away?

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"That really boosts my toot!" "I'll boost that toot!"

Ohnoes, someone new followed me.. i need to Quick! Post Something!

er, have a picture of a bunch of purple asters from my yard i took several years ago.. back when flowers bloomed & life was Not As Awful!

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It's a Tradition Sort Of that I post the first daffodillys of the year because it's a turning point of the cold season and their scent cheers me immeasurably.

As 6yo Benjamin quoth:

"Daffodils have good effects on your evilness. It hurts your evilness."

So, I give you: Quite a Few First Daffydillys ^_^

A Wee Rant about being an Insecure Extrovert 

[I wrote this March of 2012 on Tumblr but it still seems relevant to this day]

I know it’s difficult to be an Introvert in a Mostly Extroverted world but I feel that it is equally difficult to be an Insecure Extrovert as well.

Speaking as an Extrovert who draws Introverts to herself … whose closest friends in the entire universe are Introverts, it is very difficult. Between worrying that I’ve done something to piss my friends off (when all they are doing (or not doing sometimes!) is being an Introvert) and worrying that my Extroverted nature has put them off and my strong (and natural) desire to interact with them as an Extrovert, I spend a great deal of the time second-guessing my behavior & self-worth. I wonder why they even want me around.

I see the multitude of “How to Care for an Introvert” posts here [Tumblr] (they turn up even when one does a search for “Extrovert” :P) and they evoke waves of guilt and fear in me… and defensiveness. On the one hand, I want to (of course) treat them properly and in a loving and caring way (and hopefully I have). But I also want to scream from the rooftops, “What about meeeee” and I guess I also fear that the response will be, “Oh stfu, you are an Extrovert, go and mingle with your own sort” oslt.

But you see (and this brings me back to the first sentence of this post), that is very very hard for me because I am shy and insecure. I have issues with trying insert myself into other people’s plans. I am terrible at initiating things because I also have rejection issues (now known as RSD). The worst three words I have ever heard (and seem to be expected of me in general but also as an Extrovert) are, “Just Do It”

Maybe I’m just being whiny, and I am sure there are people who will be offended and will straighten me out on it and I will feel terrible for it ‘cause I said it wrong or I’m Wrong and Bad and whatever, but I would just like to know, where is the “How To Care For An Insecure Extrovert” list? (And ohgods, I know, I should “just do it”/create it myself, right? :P)

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I just love it when web sites set up their login page so web browsers don't recognize the password field, and I have to go look up my password because the browser won't fill it in.

Sometimes they even disable pasting.

Both of these make me inclined to use a less-secure password, so I can remember it and type it easily.

Nice , guys.

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turns 4 today! 🍰 🎉 :kestra:

Here's hoping I'll get caught up with the upgrading soon... >.>

-- @woozle

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One of my favorite dialogue snippets, which I think of whenever anyone mentions "pulling yourself up by your bootstraps":

Seagoon: Eccles, stand on my shoulders and then pull me up!
Eccles: right.
both: grunting/straining sounds
Eccles: I'd like to see them do this on television.

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I feel like this should be a socialist slogan or something.

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#2424 Normal Conversation 

&quot;I think I'll pass. These days I have a hard time feeling comfortable in crowded bars with loud music and lots of shouting.&quot; --me, after the pandemic, but now for a second reason

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Some things I'd been thinking about for a long time finally came together in my head this morning...

Draft proposal -- The Software Development Corps: a non-profit co-operative in the public interest

Comments invited! ^.^

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🎵 It was 20 years ago today... 🎵

Today is the 20th anniversary of @Harena's first email to me ^.^ 💚 :scipio:

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