you know there's kind of a sweet irony in how people saying they support you being your "true and authentic self" are generally the first to say "no, not like that"
I mean, I'm excluding the bigots who are ignored entirely, but I'm also tired of people who performatively say they support authenticity and think of authenticity as like, being "normal," when that is in fact the opposite of authenticity
like I can't list the number of times that I've been arguing with someone about trans stuff and they feel the need to reaffirm that they support people being their "true and authentic selves" to the point where it's basically a dogwhistle for actually not supporting authenticity
like, I know people still use it because they don't know what to say, but I will always be concerned that people who feel the need to reaffirm it actually don't want me to be authentic to myself, and so, I don't want to be around them