my #TDOV post on Nextdoor 

Today is international Trans Day of Visibility. I'm trans, so I thought I should be visible! Ask me anything (or "", as the kids say on Reddit). If I have enough to say in response, maybe we'll do a video!

Here's some background: I discovered I was trans in 2000, but didn't have the funds to begin transition until 2016. I met my cis-female / nonbinary partner Sandy* (on the left in the photo) in 2001, and we have lived together since ~2003 raising her kids from her last marriage.

Did You Know:

  1. Some people claim "cis" is a slur? It's not; it's just a scientific term that means "not trans".
  2. The "epidemic" of transitioning, especially among trans men, is largely due to the de-stigmatizing of transness in the last decade or so. This is a good thing.
  3. Gender is a social construct, and biological sex is a multidimensional continuum. Grade-school biology is accurate as far as it goes, but leaves out a lot of edge-cases; trans people are among those edge-cases.

Hopefully that's enough to get some friendly conversation started. ^.^

* better known here as @Harena

So far, all of the responses have been positive (names omitted for privacy):


I saw President Biden's statement this morning. So glad this administration supports all Americans. Thanks for your offer of sharing info!

I'm not actually sure what statement she's talking about, but ok!


While I can鈥檛 pretend to understand all of this, I celebrate your freedom to be who you are and hope for you a life free of judgement.


Thank you for sharing your lives & happiness. Understanding concepts of gender & sex from your perspective is so helpful, Woozle. At least we all can understand the words. "We don't have to agree on everything to be kind to each other." 馃挒

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For "binary" people, i.e. males & females with a "traditional" perspective, the meaning of words, especially "sex", "gender", and other kinship relations, also have important and valid but different physical, social, cultural and moral meaning(s). I hope we can all negotiate the distinctions in our views, and contextual uses of words and meanings over time, without acrimony. Peace be with you! 馃檪馃檭馃槏


Thanks for this post! As a parent of a child who has come out as Trans within the past year there鈥檚 a lot that I鈥檓 learning and I appreciate the awareness you are bringing to this topic.

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@woozle Seems like the CW description should support hashtags, but it doesn't. Because.

I've avoided tooting things in the past because they were useless without a hashtag to make them discoverable, but they really needed a CW.

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