So many communities are held together with the strength of basically one person making all the invitations and remembering everyone's hobbies and taking the time to talk to new people
& that one person n e v e r gets the credit they should bc people don't recognize emotional labor as work
@storytam Yes, and I have never been able to be that person, even though I've started things myself a number of times. I don't mind the fact that other people end up being that person. I just find it pretty rare for that person to ever say anything about me.
Though... I also think they may not realize it in some cases. And there *have* been cases where I have had one of the core people say "thanks," for the "starting" thing.
So *thank you* all of you who are and have done this.
@JigmeDatse Being the person to start something is super important too! A lot of people are intimidated by the idea of starting things so people who initiate are gold
@storytam No, we're all important, some of us end up getting a little too ignored in a lot of groups, even though we can often be very important. I'm happy to start groups, or ideas, as long as there are people who are willing to "front" the group. Heck, I'm also good in the background helping out making a group just hum along nicely because while I'm not saying anything (depending on the group) I'm usually listening.