New coping card: "It is okay to just exist"

I am a very perfectionist, goal-driven person. Often I'm more of a human doing than a human being. I push from one goal to the next without stopping for rest or to acknowledge my accomplishments.

My worth is not defined by my productivity.

I am worthy of self-care. I am worthy of love. I am worthy of joy, fun, pleasure, acknowledgement. I am worthy of breaks and rest, regardless of what I have "accomplished".

Manatee sticker by cactus club:

Productivity sticker by France corbel:

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New coping card addition: validating my feelings!

As a kid, talking about my feelings was met with a change in topic or problem solving. No one ever sat with me and said, "That sounds hard. Tell me more."

As an adult, I often push through my feelings or try to ignore them. Essentially gaslighting myself! So it's important for me to validate that my feelings are *real*, my experience is *hard*, and that's valid.

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I've been working on a set of "coping cards". It's a small wallet-sized zine I can carry with me. I can look at it when I'm triggered or having anxiety, and use grounding techniques to unhijack my brain.

The idea for coping cards comes from the book "Unfuck your brain" by Faith G. Harper. It's really good. Much more practical and written for a patient than "The Body Keeps The Score."

Watermelon Steven sticker can be found here:

More Queer Eye on November 1 and more She-ra on November 5? Yes, it's gonna be Gay-vember!

I've been thinking about this today. Someone posted about being ace and said they "find people attractive aesthetically" but not sexually.

And that really resonated with me. Like show me someone naked and I'm like "eh, it's a body??" But show me a fully clothed picture of someone with a book in their hands or someone who is flagging as queer through hair dye or rainbow gear or whatever, and I'm like 🤩

That feeling isn't sexual attracting per se, but a feeling of "ohh, yeah, maybe I can connect with this person emotionally or romantically".

I've been sure I'm demi-sexual for a while, but I'm leaning more towards describing myself as gray ace or ace now.

My housemate is playing Backstreet Boys??

CW: Food (vegetarian) 

I made pumpkin dumplings and they were so good. I got the recipe from "Giant Spider and Me", a manga about a girl living in a post apocalyptic world. She finds a giant spider and they become friends through food. Each chapter has a new recipe in it. It's cute.

@varx Your summary is lacking details that are very important. From the blog post, the person was deliberately writing in such a way as to avoid using a person's pronouns. When taken as a larger pattern, including refusing to recognize the singular they, this is misgendering.

If a trans woman uses she/her pronouns, and you verbally dance around using those pronouns, you're deliberately denying her gender.

If a non-binary person uses they/them pronouns, and you verbally dance around using their pronouns, you're deliberately denying their gender.

Both are transphobic.

I've got an account there now, thanks everyone! @sphakos

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Is anyone on the instance? I've been wanting to get back into sketching,and being on an art instance would be really inspiring. Let me know if you can send me an invite!

Looking For: LGBTQ+ Novels for Young Adults (Please Boost!) 

@mawr @missbird "Princess Princess", "Witch Boy" & sequel by Molly Ostertag, Lumberjanes (spoilers: Jo is a trans girl with two dads and Barney is non-binary), "Ghost Friends Forever" & sequel, "Shout Out Anthology", "Taproot" by Keezy Young, "Group Chat" a queer friends anthology about found family, "Dreadnaught" by April Daniels, "Misfit City" (not queer in a big way, a girl character has an ex-girlfriend)... I'm sure I know of more, but I'm currently away from my bookshelves.

I noticed that the author's first name had changed for the second book. Turns out he transitioned while writing the series! Proud to support other trans artists. :heart_trans:

Letters for Lucardo is an adult comic about a vampire lord who loves an older man. Sexy and sweet and omg I can't wait for the third book!

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partial list of trans holidays:

• Transgender Day of Remembrance
• Transgender Day of Visibility
• Transgender Day of Paperwork
• Transgender Day of Explaining This Shit To Your Parents, Again
• Transgender Day of Dealing With Medical Insurance (formerly part of TDoP but it got too big)
• Transgender Day of Seeing Another Trans Person at the Coffee Shop But They Don't Have Any Openly Trans Signifiers and What Are You Gonna Say To Them Anyway, Hi, I'm Trans Too, How's It Going
• Halloween
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Elke Mackenzie (1911-1990) was a botanist who spent several years in Antarctica studying lichens. While there, she discovered several new species. The most interesting one was probably Verrucaria serpuloides, the only known marine lichen.

In 1971, aged 60, she came out as trans. She spent the end of her career translating botanical texts, before retiring to an A-frame house in Costa Rica which she built herself.


These photos are licensed Creative Commons Zero (public domain). Feel free to reuse however you like, no attribution required.

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PSA, please boost! If you take testosterone as a shot, one thing you need to watch out for is the vial "crystalizing". I was warned about this, but had no idea what it looked like until my vial was quite advanced. I've attached photos so others know what the crystals look like. The crystals will dissolve if you gently warm it up by putting it in your pocket for 5-10 minutes. If they don't, it's time to get a new vial.

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Boomer: things should be more like the good old days
Me: yes they should
Boomer: wait no not like that

Had a good walk around a lake with a friend. There were so many doggos!

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Good morning beautiful faces 🌷

📷: Went for a short walk with my camera this morning and caught this crocus just outside my house 💕.

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