New coping card: "It is okay to just exist"
I am a very perfectionist, goal-driven person. Often I'm more of a human doing than a human being. I push from one goal to the next without stopping for rest or to acknowledge my accomplishments.
My worth is not defined by my productivity.
I am worthy of self-care. I am worthy of love. I am worthy of joy, fun, pleasure, acknowledgement. I am worthy of breaks and rest, regardless of what I have "accomplished".
Manatee sticker by cactus club: https://cactusclubpaper.com/products/manatee-sticker
Productivity sticker by France corbel: https://www.redbubble.com/i/sticker/Your-worth-is-not-measured-by-your-productivity-by-fun-qui/29732135.EJUG5
New coping card addition: validating my feelings!
As a kid, talking about my feelings was met with a change in topic or problem solving. No one ever sat with me and said, "That sounds hard. Tell me more."
As an adult, I often push through my feelings or try to ignore them. Essentially gaslighting myself! So it's important for me to validate that my feelings are *real*, my experience is *hard*, and that's valid.
I've been working on a set of "coping cards". It's a small wallet-sized zine I can carry with me. I can look at it when I'm triggered or having anxiety, and use grounding techniques to unhijack my brain.
The idea for coping cards comes from the book "Unfuck your brain" by Faith G. Harper. It's really good. Much more practical and written for a patient than "The Body Keeps The Score."
Watermelon Steven sticker can be found here: https://www.etsy.com/listing/550037075/watermelon-steven-vinyl-sticker
I've been thinking about this today. Someone posted about being ace and said they "find people attractive aesthetically" but not sexually.
And that really resonated with me. Like show me someone naked and I'm like "eh, it's a body??" But show me a fully clothed picture of someone with a book in their hands or someone who is flagging as queer through hair dye or rainbow gear or whatever, and I'm like 🤩
That feeling isn't sexual attracting per se, but a feeling of "ohh, yeah, maybe I can connect with this person emotionally or romantically".
I've been sure I'm demi-sexual for a while, but I'm leaning more towards describing myself as gray ace or ace now.
CW: Food (vegetarian)
I made pumpkin dumplings and they were so good. I got the recipe from "Giant Spider and Me", a manga about a girl living in a post apocalyptic world. She finds a giant spider and they become friends through food. Each chapter has a new recipe in it. It's cute. #cooking
I noticed that the author's first name had changed for the second book. Turns out he transitioned while writing the series! Proud to support other trans artists.
Letters for Lucardo is an adult comic about a vampire lord who loves an older man. Sexy and sweet and omg I can't wait for the third book!
PSA, please boost! If you take testosterone as a shot, one thing you need to watch out for is the vial "crystalizing". I was warned about this, but had no idea what it looked like until my vial was quite advanced. I've attached photos so others know what the crystals look like. The crystals will dissolve if you gently warm it up by putting it in your pocket for 5-10 minutes. If they don't, it's time to get a new vial.
"You're never more than five days from the weekend." #Mondays
Immigrants welcome sticker. A reminder that colonizers get to define the borders and the victorious party gets to write history.
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