"just trying to help" is like a very particular flavour of ableism
"don't push my wheelchair without my consent" - "i'm just trying to help"
"don't lecture me on scammy miracle cures" - "i'm just trying to help"
"stop trying to diagnose me with made-up fad conditions" - "i'm just trying to help"
"don't give me advice i didn't ask for" - "i'm just trying to help"
"no, i don't care which diet you think will cure my genetic disease" - "i'm just trying to help"
"please stop making suggestions for jobs you think i could do" - "i'm just trying to help"
"don't make assumptions about our needs without even asking" - "i'm just trying to help"
"please just give me the prescription i need instead of expecting me to somehow magically fix myself" - "i'm just trying to help"
"please stop forcing me into treatments and rehab programmes that only make me sicker" - "i'm just trying to help"
why are we supposed to be grateful for any of that?