Children and young people are always growing and changing. Parents, however, sometimes need to take the effort to grow with them. #parenting

A lot of parents seem stuck with their idea of who they want their child to be, or who they remember the child as--often as a literal baby, helpless and dependent, so easy to project the parents' hopes and perceptions on.

I kind of get why parents don't forget their children's very young childhoods, I think? It really is a precious and unforgettable time, when you're bonding with this brand-new being soul to soul as you get to know each other. It's a time of unbearable sweetness that will never come again, because no matter how many children or grandchildren you have that particular child will only be young once. No wonder it leaves an indelible mark in the parent as well as the child.

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@ljwrites

also, many parents think their children are to be a "mini-me" (of themselves) instead of a child being their own independently minded being ...

letting go so difficult for many ... especially letting go when you may feel your children are making a mistake

@js0000 @ljwrites

This reminds me of a Persian poem by Kahlil Gibran:

poets.org/poem/children-1

Snippets:
"Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you."

"You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you."

"You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth."

#poetry

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