Really liked this article: It's Time to Bring Back the AIM Away Message

Personally, these days, I find it really stressful when people expect rapid replies (it's one of the reasons I dislike Discord, for example) and I really value mediums of communication where it's "okay" for me to check my notifications, scroll the timeline, and send out replies whenever I damn well feel like.

I didn't used to find instant messaging stressful, and I think it's because in that pre-smartphone era, people had to actually be on their computer and open their IM app to even be listed as available for conversation. The fact that modern apps seem to presume that everyone is constantly available to take messages is the pits. Let's not just bring back away messages (although those are good too); let's bring back being offline!

@jayeless in discord and any other apps with presence indicators, I am permanently "offline". Simple, effective.

@kauer Yeah, in Discord my indicator is permanently set to "invisible". For me that doesn't fix how I feel about the app because I just don't vibe with what it's designed to be at all. I wish the communities on there would go back to having forums 😛

@jayeless great article. The need for instant responses is pervasive. MS Teams being the latest problem. I find even email is problematic with people expecting almost instant replies. I’ll monitor it for urgent from above but otherwise treat my email like the old fashioned paper mail in an in tray. I sort and work through it at two set points a day.

@peterw Ugh, how annoying that people expect you to be glued to your email! I'm with you, I generally reply to emails some time later in the day.

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