@guerrillablack my favourite analogy so far is stepping on somebody’s foot. to react with doubting their pain, doubling down with silly justifications, or thinking that an apology means i’m conceding something i didn’t need to, is completely absurd.
as it should be with racist things done unintentionally. both are harm without intent.
I'm a white guy, but I'm also autistic. I screw up, and I try to learn and improve communication skills. Too often, people cite intent like everyone else needs to be telepathic, rather than paying attention to what they say and how they say it.
It doesn't help that I'm in a place where "they didn't mean that" is used to defend horrible people with power.
@RecursiveRabbit as a fellow person on the spectrum: heck yes to all of the above!
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