Interesting. I think I have flopped between wave and island, with no anchors. In most relationships I have been wavy, but b/c of how those turned out, fell back to my natural island core being, but the deep emotionality/attachments don't have any where to go, and I fear people see me as unemotional. I try to be my own anchor, but didn't have role models. But being a wave was exhausting to my island-nature.
Since reading that article I've had Joan Baez' song 'No Man Is an Island' stuck in my head, which is annoying pronoun-wise. But I just looked it up and it's based on the poem by John Donne. I think I learned the song in school or in summer day camp or something; kids in the 60's learned protest songs.
@barkstick @Harena I mean, I tend to assume that classifications like this are actually gradients, and any individual is actually going to be all three to varying degrees in varying contexts -- so nobody is *absolutely* an island. It's more like we draw a percentile line somewhere and then, for the sake of brevity, say that people on one side "are" a thing, and those on the other side "are" something else.
("There are two types of people: those that see people as being one of two types,...")
@barkstick @Harena This parallels my story a bit -- I was also pretty much raised to be an island, when I wanted to be part of a continent (leading to emotional incontinence? :D #srynotsry) -- so there were some major tectonic shifts when I figured that out and tried to reconnect with the main landmass...
I think the resultant tsunami is still settling down.
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